Perhaps it was your first romance. Perhaps it was someone that you really connected with and have not had the same connection with anyone else. Someone you confided in but due to circumstances beyond control, you lost contact with them. Maybe after your partner and you have separated you wish to rekindle an old romance. Many individuals find themselves in this situation and have wondered about attempting to contact a lost love in hopes of seeing if the spark from long ago still has a burning ember that just needs enough fuel to be reignited.

With the power of the internet, contacting a lost love may be easier. But what are the risks, especially if you are in a current relationship. Nancy Kalish, Ph.D. has been researching reunited couples since 1993. The Lost Love Project implemented by Dr. Kalish involved participants from all fifty states as well as 35 countries. Participants ranged in age from 18 to 89. Their average age was 35. Participants were asked to complete a survey and provide additional information they felt was relevant. Information is still actively sought to add to the research. Interested individuals can go to www.lostlovers.com/participate Findings to date indicate that reunions of old lovers have a rate of staying together of almost 75%.

There is a finding from the research that should be a warning to those currently married. Oftentimes those that are married and seek a lost love often do so out of current emotional challenges or lack of intimacy with their spouse. Reunions of individuals currently married are not as successful as individuals that are single, divorced or widowed. In fact, based on her research, Dr. Kalish advises against attempting a reunion if you are married. The research clearly shows there is a much greater success of reuniting and staying together if neither individual is currently in a committed relationship at the time they attempt to make contact.

One website offers a registry to seek lost loves. At www.lost-love-registry.com you can register to seek someone you wish to reconnect with. It might be useful however to consider the benefits and risks to doing so, particularly if you are in a relationship. (Think how it would feel if you found your partner had registered seeking their lost love….)

For more information, go to:

www.lost-love-registry.com

www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-4097.html&fromMod=emailed

If you are interested in meeting dynamic, senior singles, go to www.ErosOver40.com, an online senior singles website.